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EP 6: Sam Wants Sex. Nina Wants Sleep.
Sam wants sex at night. Nina would prefer that he stop waiting until she has used up nearly all available humanity. What starts as a timing problem reveals years of unspoken assumptions about desire, initiation, pleasure, and what neither of them quite knew how to say.
We Love Each Other. So Why Does Sex Feel So Complicated?
You can love your spouse, be attracted to them, and still discover that sex comes with different desires, timing, expectations, insecurities, histories, and unspoken rules. Here’s why married sex can get complicated—and how couples can make it safer to talk about what they actually need.