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Chris Misses Lena. Unfortunately, So Do the Kids.
Chris and Lena love their three kids. Deeply. They would also like to finish one conversation without being asked for water, a charger, help finding something directly in front of someone, or an emergency ruling on whether tomorrow is pajama day. Somewhere inside the family they built, they realize they miss each other too.
We Love Our Kids. We Also Miss Us.
You can adore your children and still miss the version of your marriage that had more room to breathe. Here’s how couples can stay connected when parenting turns most conversations into logistics, bedtime negotiations, and questions about who moved the water bottle.
Stop Trying to Win the Argument You’re Both Losing
Sometimes the argument stops being about solving the problem and quietly becomes about proving who is right. Here’s how couples can disagree honestly, hold their ground when needed, and still remember they are arguing with someone they love—not opposing counsel.
EP 6: Sam Wants Sex. Nina Wants Sleep.
Sam wants sex at night. Nina would prefer that he stop waiting until she has used up nearly all available humanity. What starts as a timing problem reveals years of unspoken assumptions about desire, initiation, pleasure, and what neither of them quite knew how to say.
We Love Each Other. So Why Does Sex Feel So Complicated?
You can love your spouse, be attracted to them, and still discover that sex comes with different desires, timing, expectations, insecurities, histories, and unspoken rules. Here’s why married sex can get complicated—and how couples can make it safer to talk about what they actually need.
The Budget Is Probably Not the Real Problem
Couples can argue about groceries, savings, subscriptions, and the mysterious disappearance of money at Target—but the numbers are often carrying something bigger. Here’s how to talk about the safety, freedom, fairness, values, and trust hiding underneath the budget.
EP 5: Ben Is Dancing? Claire Has Questions.
Ben starts dancing in the kitchen. Claire is not entirely convinced that “dancing” is the correct word. Somewhere between children, work, errands, and becoming respectable adults, they begin wondering when they stopped being quite so ridiculous together.
When Did We Stop Being Silly Together?
Somewhere between work, bills, children, and everything that needs doing, couples can forget how to be ridiculous together. Here’s why a little playfulness is worth protecting.
The 10-Second Habit That Can Change the Way You Come Home
Before the bags, bills, kids, dinner, and evening logistics take over, give your spouse ten seconds of real arrival. A small homecoming habit can help couples reconnect before the second shift begins.
EP 4: Maya and Daniel Are Running a Very Efficient Household
Maya and Daniel have the bills paid, the kids scheduled, the groceries ordered, and the household running with impressive efficiency. The only thing they may have forgotten to keep up with is each other.
How Couples Slowly Become Roommates—and How to Catch It Early
When marriage starts feeling more like managing a household than enjoying each other, the drift can be easy to miss. Here’s how to notice roommate mode early—and start moving back toward each other.
When Your Spouse Wants Comfort and You Bring a PowerPoint
Sometimes your spouse needs a solution. Sometimes they need you to sit beside them and agree that today was awful. Learning the difference can change the way couples support each other.